If you would like MORE peace, joy and cooperation within your family and LESS arguing, yelling, fighting and power struggles, then these workshops are for you!
What is Positive Discipline?
Positive Discipline is a philosophy and program designed to teach young people to become responsible, respectful and resourceful members of their communities and teaches parents how to raise confident, self-motivated and compassionate children. Based on the best selling Positive Discipline books by Dr. Jane Nelsen, the course teaches important social and life skills in a manner that is deeply respectful and encouraging for both children and adults (including parents, teachers, childcare providers, youth workers, and others).
Recent research tells us that children are “hardwired” from birth to connect with others and that children who feel a sense of connection to their community, family, and school are less likely to misbehave. To be successful, contributing members of their community, children must learn necessary social and life skills.
Five Criteria for Effective Discipline (aka “Guidance”)
- Helps children feel a sense of connection. (Belonging and significance)
- Is mutually respectful and encouraging. (Kind and firm at the same time.)
- Is effective long – term. (Considers what the child is thinking, feeling, learning, and deciding about himself and his world – and what to do in the future to survive or to thrive.)
- Teaches important social and life skills. (Respect, concern for others, problem solving, and cooperation as well as the skills to contribute to the home, school or larger community.)
- Invites children to discover how capable they are. (Encourages the constructive use of personal power and autonomy.)
Positive Discipline Tools
The Positive Discipline Parenting model is aimed at developing mutually respectful relationships. Positive Discipline teaches adults to employ kindness and firmness at the same time, and is neither punitive nor permissive. The tools and concepts of Positive Discipline include:
- Mutual respect. Adults model firmness by respecting themselves and the needs of the situation, and kindness by respecting the needs of the child.
- Identifying the belief behind the behavior. Effective discipline recognizes the reasons kids do what they do and works to change those beliefs, rather than merely attempting to change behavior.
- Effective communication and problem solving skills.
- Discipline that teaches (and is neither permissive nor punitive).
- Focusing on solutions instead of punishment.
- Encouragement (instead of praise). Encouragement notices effort and improvement, not just success, and builds long-term self-esteem and empowerment.
Positive Discipline also includes:
- The difference between motivating through love vs. motivating through fear
- How to communicate in a way that builds connection and encourages your children to “listen”
- Resolving conflicts without power struggles
- Understanding why time-outs don’t work and what to do instead
- Assisting children in developing self-control, responsibility and self-confidence
- How to effectively manage sibling rivalry
- Setting clear limits and following through
- How to establish family meetings to promote leadership, values and problem-solving skills
- The difference between praise and encouragement
- How to focus on solutions vs. punishment
- How to make parenting more FUN
- …And so much more!
For more information, call Debbie at 858.822.8878 or email [email protected].